One of the most common words of encouragement people give when they hear that we are adopting is, “That’s awesome. It takes a special person. I could never do that.” As if we’re either crazy or we’re heroes.
While I know the sentiment is well-meaning, I cringe a little each time I hear it.
Because aside from my aptitude for stacking cheerios, I’m no more special than you are.
In all honesty, adoption is not something that we felt called to 7 years ago when we got married. And there is nothing that sets us apart from any other loving couple, except for the fact that God has called us to it now.
I get it… I have also often thought “I could never go through what she’s going through,” or “Wow, they are special people to live so sacrificially.”
But actually, it’s God’s M.O. to take our circumstances and ask us to simply yield to His plan for redemption through them. No matter how weak and unqualified we feel.
In fact, sometimes our weakness brings even greater glory to the Lord, because in our weakness, He is strong.
I read a banner on facebook recently that said something to the effect of, “God puts you through hard situations to make you stronger.”
But I’m not so sure that’s actually the case. Over and over in the Bible it says, “The Lord is our strength.” Strength is not about us growing, but about us trusting. Trusting that God is working out redemption from our circumstances and will give us enough strength to face each day.
So if anything, our strength comes from being weak.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is perfected in your weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13
“Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, because I am your God. I will strengthen you and I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10
So please… don’t exalt our calling to adopt as any more important than your own. You may feel like life is easy right now and you aren’t living any sort of “calling.” Or, you may feel your weakness has somehow immobilized your ability to serve the Lord. But whatever your circumstances are, they are important to God. And no future plans are more important than every single “today.”
P.S. Our Fundraising dinner is this Saturday from 5:00-6:30 pm at Peace Church (6950 Cherry Valley, Middleville, MI 49333). Come grill-out with us!