It’s been about 2 weeks since I last blogged and there are a few reasons for that. As you likely experienced yourself, the summer is busy. Not just “To-Do List-Busy”, but “There’s-Only-So-Much-Summer-Left-Busy.” Since June was pretty much entirely devoted to fundraising, we’ve been trying to make up for lost time with camping and day-trips.
But perhaps another reason is the celebration of our dear friends’ being chosen by a birth-mom, and bringing their baby home, only to lose her two short weeks later. The mother had changed her mind.
It doesn’t happen a lot, in spite of what you might have heard: About 1 in 20 cases, and usually a birth-mom changes her mind before the couple brings the baby home.
We are heartbroken for our friends. We were so thrilled for them and were so blessed to have met their baby girl. The news rattled us, to say the least. No one expected it. Everything leading up to that point seemed so God-ordained. The birth-family seemed so certain, so relieved to know this baby would have such amazing parents.
The past few weeks have led us through a lot of soul-searching. All of which makes our resolve to adopt ever-more sure.
As I’ve said before, one of the common platitudes we hear is, “It takes a special couple to adopt.”
But we are not special. We are not strong. We are not prepared for that kind of devastation. We are shaken and weakened just by this news of our friends.
We are fragile… but our God is mighty.
We won’t withhold love from any baby… but we very well may have our hearts shattered.
We may face more than we can handle on our own… but we are never on our own to handle it.
What we may experience through adoption is a mere shadow of the heartbreak our Father has over those who reject Him. Yet His heart can handle it, and He does not shut down. He can never grow weary of loving.
“How great is the love the Father is lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” (1 John 3:1)
And if WE have been adopted into God’s family, we feel ever-more burdened to adopt children into our own. But our ability to stand and move forward with determination has nothing to do with us and everything to do with Him. The God who loves us and will sustain us. The God who loves these children.
So that no child will leave our home without being loved as our own and covered in prayer for the rest of their lives.
“We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)
Please pray for adoptive and foster families. They probably aren’t as strong as you think… we all need your prayers!